tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19156160.post1186079074657953074..comments2023-11-02T08:55:16.549-04:00Comments on Ben & Kelly: Are you pregnant or want to be?Kelly Glupkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04259118889199565501noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19156160.post-36165745915266732542007-07-24T00:59:00.000-04:002007-07-24T00:59:00.000-04:00Hi Kelly,I have enjoyed reading your blog! I don't...Hi Kelly,<BR/>I have enjoyed reading your blog! I don't know if you remember me from NBBC or not, but we were in the same class. My last name was Emig, and then I married Kevin Busch. <BR/><BR/>I realize I'm really late in commenting here, but I wanted to say "Bravo!" on your desire for natural childbirth. My son is 18 months old now, but when I was pregnant I wanted to know everything I possibly could about labor. Somehow that helped with nerves! :) Kevin and I took a childbirth class together, and I read several books. I am SO glad that we did. We had several scenarios come up during the birth that we had prepared for in class. <BR/><BR/>The book that you're reading was good, and I also enjoyed "Husband Coached Childbirth." I think the most helpful thing for Kevin was a chart that was in the Bradley class student workbook. The chart basically explains the different stages that a woman goes through during labor, both physically and emotionally. He said he could track exactly where I was, based on that chart. (If you'd like me to send you info on the chart, just let me know. My email is bethemigathotmaildotcom.)<BR/><BR/>I think that sharing what we read, and being in the class together really strengthened our relationship. It was a sacrifice of time and money since the class we took was so long and involved, but it was worth all of it. I praise the Lord that our labor was basically textbook. It was over and done in 12 hours. I came home from the hospital a little over 24 hours after delivery, and felt like I could do it all over again. I didn't feel like that after a couple weeks!! The sleep deprivation got to me a little! :) God knew I could handle just one at a time (for now). Our birth story is here if you'd like to read it: http://moriartychildbirtheducation.com/PHP-Nuke/modules.php?name=Content&pa=showpage&pid=13<BR/><BR/>I was so comforted by the fact that the class I took focused on healthy baby/healthy mom - even if it meant medical intervention. I gave birth in a midwifery center in the hospital. It was great to know that the OR was right down the hall if the need arose.<BR/><BR/>I'm so very excited for you. You look wonderful! I'm looking forward to seeing pictures of your new little one and hearing your birth story. <BR/><BR/>Sorry this is so incredibly long!<BR/><BR/>BethBusch familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04870818733610713285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19156160.post-7749190949041014122007-06-26T22:46:00.000-04:002007-06-26T22:46:00.000-04:00Kelly,My doc is all for it, and when I researched ...Kelly,<BR/>My doc is all for it, and when I researched it out, the risk of complications is only VERY slightly higher (like .2% or something) for a VBAC vs a repeat C-Section. I'm praying for a successful VBAC and have been since Aaron's birth. :-) God knows best, though!Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10160352727815500872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19156160.post-52226046631235806502007-06-26T13:22:00.000-04:002007-06-26T13:22:00.000-04:00Jenny M,Did you read this book too? Thanks for you...Jenny M,<BR/>Did you read this book too? Thanks for your vote of confidence - I sure don't feel very confident! I know sometimes c-sections are inevitable. Will your doctor allow you to try vaginally next time? I know many doctors won't allow you to after you have had a c-section. My cousin was able to though so you never know.Kelly Glupkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04259118889199565501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19156160.post-79261729544484540542007-06-26T09:39:00.000-04:002007-06-26T09:39:00.000-04:00Kelly,This is a great book - I hope you get to exp...Kelly,<BR/>This is a great book - I hope you get to experience the birth you want to! I know you can do it!! I had hoped so deeply for an all natural birth, but God had another plan that ended with a (very unwanted) c-section. I am still holding out for next time, though! :-) I'm so glad you've had a great pregnancy, and am hoping & praying that your labor & delivery go just as well!!Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10160352727815500872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19156160.post-44149687979952546392007-06-24T13:48:00.000-04:002007-06-24T13:48:00.000-04:00Karen,Thanks for your support. I know that regardl...Karen,<BR/>Thanks for your support. I know that regardless of how the delivery happens, it will all be worth it. So few people are open to the idea of natural child-birth and just mock those who want to try it. If I can do it - great. If I can't - that's okay too. It would be neat if you could do it both ways and compare your experiences. I would love to hear about it. I am feeling good and can't wait to meet this baby! With so many people getting pregnant, you might be next! :)Kelly Glupkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04259118889199565501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19156160.post-86514092567684877352007-06-24T00:21:00.000-04:002007-06-24T00:21:00.000-04:00When I was pregnant, I decided to go as long as I ...When I was pregnant, I decided to go as long as I could without an epidural. I made it to 6 cm, which was much farther than I thought I would! Next time, I would love to have a natural birth, if for no other reason than to compare the 2 experiences. I think it's great that you're doing that--and I really hope you won't minimize your experience if it doesn't work out the way you want it to. <BR/><BR/>Nate was an unbelievable source of strength for me, and he didn't do a lot of preparation. I would tell him lots of stuff that I read, and he also learned a ton from our childbirth class. <BR/><BR/>Anyway! You look so GREAT! Do you feel good? I can't wait to see pics of the little Glupker!Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08150226972519438479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19156160.post-30424263301703538052007-06-19T09:27:00.000-04:002007-06-19T09:27:00.000-04:00Laurie,I have heard of the birthing plan, but neve...Laurie,<BR/>I have heard of the birthing plan, but never though to get a form from the internet. I'll have to do that. Thanks for the suggestion!<BR/><BR/>Phil,<BR/>There are many positive reasons to not have pain medication. There are always risks involved when you take something. With all the medicine I have been on over the last couple of years, I just don't want to take something unless I have to. I want to minimize risks and harmful side effects as much as possible. I have also heard many women testify that labor is better without the numbing because they can feel their contractions and work with their bodies rather than against. It makes recovery easier.Kelly Glupkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04259118889199565501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19156160.post-88948525374590651312007-06-18T20:09:00.000-04:002007-06-18T20:09:00.000-04:00Just wondering. Is there some advantage to enduri...Just wondering. Is there some advantage to enduring all that pain when you don't need to? Are there statistics that show that the babies are healthier (or the moms)? I once had four stitches in the top of my scalp with no pain killers. I certainly don't recommend it. At any rate you sure sound brave to me. I think Ben may need a couple shots if you go through with it and he is with you. We continue to pray for everything to go well.Phil Luterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02066818439724213318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19156160.post-51774721506415379212007-06-18T16:05:00.000-04:002007-06-18T16:05:00.000-04:00Kelly, I myself am not pregnant or anything, but I...Kelly, I myself am not pregnant or anything, but I did come across a form online that might help. It's called a birth plan, and basically you answer questions about how you want the birthing process handled. Then you can print a copy for the hospital/doctor. Just do a google search on 'birth plan' and you should find a bunch of them.Lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04481919756690398685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19156160.post-32478729656699491852007-06-18T10:13:00.000-04:002007-06-18T10:13:00.000-04:00Tricia and Carrie,It is so encouraging to hear oth...Tricia and Carrie,<BR/>It is so encouraging to hear other women who chose to deliver without the epidural and survived to talk about it! :) Carrie, I LOVED hearing your home birth story. I would love to do that! Thanks so much for commenting.<BR/><BR/>Kara,<BR/>You always make deliver sound like a breeze. I hope I can be like you.<BR/><BR/>Don,<BR/>Thanks for your comment. I have been telling Ben that he needs to read these books as well. He agrees and plans to do so once his research paper is done. I have read over and over again how huge the husband role is. I enjoyed talking to Linda about her deliveries when we were at your house. It's nice to hear a guy's point of view.Kelly Glupkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04259118889199565501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19156160.post-6583125492215152532007-06-17T06:53:00.000-04:002007-06-17T06:53:00.000-04:00What does a guy have to say about this? Feel free...What does a guy have to say about this? Feel free to skip this comment if you'd like, but I witnessed my wife deliver three 9 lb. babies with NO pain medicine at all. I am in awe of her strength and resolve! Having been through it as a husband, though I want to point out how important it is that Ben prepares along with you! He must know very clearly (even better than you) exactly what you want and don't want. There will likely be a moment when they want you to sign something while you are in labor and without Ben's involvement you will be ready to sign anything. While delivering our first, they pulled out a piece of equipment and began putting it together, once assembled it looked like a set of salad tongs: Forceps, we had already agreed that forceps are an extreme last minute resort. At my strong urging, they put them away.Donhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09851315626468534306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19156160.post-72960894906482615342007-06-15T23:37:00.000-04:002007-06-15T23:37:00.000-04:00Kelly, I don't actually know you, though I do reme...Kelly, I don't actually know you, though I do remember you vaguely from Northland . . . but I enjoy reading your blog and wanted to say congrats on your pregnancy! And it's great that you are hoping/planning for a natural birth. Being mentally prepared is so important! I was like you and wanted to really educate myself ahead of time, so I read books, we took a childbirth class, etc. I've had two natural births so far--one in the hospital and one at home, and both were incredible experiences. I don't know if you're into reading birth stories or not, but I posted both of mine at my pregnancy blog (carriespregjournal.blogspot.com). <BR/><BR/>Hope your pregnancy continues to go smoothly, and I look forward to reading about it as the months go by!Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00159961811540152967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19156160.post-36263419983642052532007-06-15T17:21:00.000-04:002007-06-15T17:21:00.000-04:00Kelly, thanks for your comment on my blog. Whoever...Kelly, thanks for your comment on my blog. Whoever told you that you look ready to deliver is crazy...you look really cute pregnant! I'm so glad that you are reading up on labor and delivery...that helped me tremendously. I delivered both the boys without an epidural and wouldn't have it any other way.Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15125013534710522544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19156160.post-73448999124243478822007-06-15T14:47:00.000-04:002007-06-15T14:47:00.000-04:00You can do it!!! Every baby is different, sometim...You can do it!!! Every baby is different, sometimes you lay there for 12 hours bored out of your mind (as with abby) or sometimes they practically fly out the minute you climb onto the table (as with Adam). Whatever happens for you I'm sure it will be a whopper of a blog story.Karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10181857114551503683noreply@blogger.com